Mother

Prov 31:10-31

 

10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.

12 She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13 She seeks wool and flax, and willingly works with her hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships, she brings her food from afar.

15 She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants.

16 She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard.

17 She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms.

18 She perceives that her merchandise is good, and her lamp does not go out by night.

19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hand holds the spindle.

20 She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household is clothed with scarlet.

22 She makes tapestry for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants.

25 Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:

29 "Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all."

30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.

(NKJ)

 

What women is not intimidated by the reading of this passage? How could one women be so good at so many things?

There is such disparity today between what the Bible describes as a wife and mother as compared to what the world would have us think. I was reading this week that 75% of women of child bearing age are now working. 62% of mothers with children under two are working. 68% of mothers with children under six are working.

Now to many people this is not a disturbing fact, but to me it is. Who is watching over the household as it says is verse 27. Are we reaping what we have been sowing in the area of families.

Somehow in our society we have made the mothers who want to stay home and raise their children to feel less worthy. We will pay for child care for the women who will leave their children in the hands of people who have no stake in their up bringing. At the same time we have little help for the mother who wants to stay home and raise those children.

We are ever increasing taxes on working people to provide them with services that they do not want. I think that it is somewhere along here in the year that you have paid you taxes to Uncle Sam. That is everything you made so far this year will go for taxes.

And while I am on the subject of taxes. It is criminal that the federal government will withhold tax money from school systems that do not adhere to the federal education guidelines.

We have come to the conclusion as a nation that the society know best, it is no longer father or mother knows best.

But then let look at this passage

 

10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.

  • •Virtue is not what it once was.
  • •It is a quality that most people wonder why you would want it.
  • •People today scoff at these qualities as being Victorian
  • •But the Bible always upholds virtue as a desirable trait for husband, wife and children.

11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.

  • •Our society has pitted the men against the women and the women against the men.
  • •We were made to compliment one another, not compete with one another.

12 She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.

  • •In the godly marriage there is a mutual nurturing.
  • •Not like we have it today where everyone seeks their own and everyone is on their own.

13 She seeks wool and flax, and willingly works with her hands.

  • •The Bible doesn't teach idleness.
  • •What I have found is that no one will ever get bored doing what it is that God wants them to do.
  • •Now people get bored with doing what God says but His ways are never such as to fill our days with idleness or useless, meaningless labor

14 She is like the merchant ships, she brings her food from afar.

  • •Motherhood never restricts creativity.
  • •It is just that the creativity is invested in Billy, Jim, and Sue not in IBM
  • •If you go to work for IBM and work for fifty years they will give you a gold pin and remember you about two seconds after you are out the door.
  • •But if you invest fifty years in your children and your children's children they will rise up and call you blessed.

15 She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants.

  • •My mother was up every morning to fix breakfast for five very unappreciative children.

16 She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard.

17 She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms.

18 She perceives that her merchandise is good, and her lamp does not go out by night.

  • •I think that this is the one are we lack.
  • •Mother's today are not supported in the mother's role.
  • •They are made to feel guilty about doing nothing with their lives.
  • •There is no more important job than children.
  • •We talk much about the importance of education, but the education they get in the first three years is more important than what they will get later. It cannot be bypassed.

19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hand holds the spindle.

20 She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household is clothed with scarlet.

22 She makes tapestry for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.

  • •Have you ever wondered where the principle that behind every successful man there is a dedicated wife comes from.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants.

25 Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come.

  • •It is not what people wear on the outside that make them beautiful, it is what they wear on the inside.

26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.

  • •Her household are the important thing.
  • •Titus 2:4-5 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (NKJ)
  • •1 Tim 5:14 Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully. (NKJ)

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:

29 "Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all."

30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.

 

This message was preached at FBC Toulon, by Albert Harmon. See it at http://toulonbaptist.com